Comments on: The “Sex, Lies & Religion” Survey Results

By: Saskia Tielens

Saskia Tielens — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 17:05:47 +0000

Rephrasing the questions to include previous relationships would help a lot for those of us not in a relationship but that do have experiences with sex. I understand how the celibate option is not included in the survey, however, I’m not celibate and yet couldn’t answer the questions.

However, I also get why people wouldn’t answer all questions honestly. You are asking a lot here, a lot of personal things. Things that scientific studies usually don’t include. For a minute there, I wondered if I had stumbled on to a sleazy site..

By: Randy Elrod

Randy Elrod — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 12:26:42 +0000

Thanks, Lauren.

I understand now that you are responding to the comment about the many incompletes. That makes sense. I tried to say at the end of the post that we would do the survey a little different, if we had it to do over. But, we don’t.

And the survey really accomplished far more than I could have dreamed. It was a huge success. While I understand why a single celibate could not finish the survey, I still feel that many people who are sexually active did not finish it as well because of fear and misunderstanding. Just by virtue of the numbers and the answers/comments to some of the questions.

Thanks so much for the clarification.

By: Greg

Greg — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 11:35:29 +0000

As Randy said, this was a SEX survey. If you are not having it then it did not apply. I would not take a BMW survey because I do not own BMW.

By: lauren

lauren — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 05:12:33 +0000

I agree with these ladies, and it is also the reason I could not complete the survey. I have never been married and I am still a virgin. Randy, it’s not that we’re looking for you to write a book for us. We’re just responding to the one woman’s comment about so many people not completing the survey. We’re not uptight! We just didn’t have options to answer all of the questions. Maybe we shouldn’t have taken the survey?

By: Tamra

Tamra — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:41:24 +0000

It is the reason I did not finish the survey. I got so far and then I could not answer accurately. As in, I am not currently sexually active, being single, but while I was married, answers pertained, but did not give options to answer that way.

By: Randy Elrod

Randy Elrod — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 20:37:47 +0000

Ladies,

I am afraid we may not be making ourselves clear. This book is not about the single celibate life. It is focused on sexual activity, not the absence thereof.

The book could obviously go myriad ways, but we have decided to focus on sexual relationships and activity and how religion affects and effects them.

I hope there are books that deal with the issues you guys are raising. If not, then I hope someone else will write something. Maybe one of you.

Thanks for your comments,

Randy

By: j a n

j a n — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 19:34:22 +0000

I agree w/ DJ. Not including any information about singles who choose celibacy based on religious beliefs seems like a huge oversight…

By: DJ

DJ — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 18:11:22 +0000

As a widow, who had a good sex life while it lasted, I was annoyed that there was no way of commenting that you were celibate. I enjoy sex, but until and unless I remarry, I can’t have it. So, some of the questions were not possible to answer totally honestly, since I haven’t had intercourse since my husband died.
Come on, guys, get REAL here. Not all of us are gettin’ it, no matter what we might like to do otherwise. There are plenty of us who are celibate.