Note: While over 200 of the 1,000+ respondents desribed their individual fantasies, only 100 said they fantasize mutually with their lover.
Question 14. If you fantasize together as a couple, briefly describe your favorite mutual fantasy.
1 On a nude beach making love
2 we talk about some of the things we would like to do to eachother that we think would turn us on. then we slow try them out.
3 Camping. Wildlife park ranger/hiker
4 on the deck of a sailboat
5 Another woman involved
6 we talk about what would be fun, imaginative
7 fantasy role playing, in a tame way
8 A threesome with one friend in particular.
9 being on the beach or somewhere secluded
10 different encounters
11 since we waited until marriage to have sex, we usually role play about a “good” couple who gives in to temptation
12 Sometimes we do a little bit of role-playing…nothing too crazy. Typical “french maid” type stuff.
13 n/a
14 The same as above
15 N/A
16 the one I mentioned
17 That we are both fit. We are currently morbidly obese.
18 Making love outdoors
19 only in that we talk about our sexual relationship and project ourselves in other locations or times together.
20 Boss secretary.
21 Having sex in a public shower
22 i am getting it on in my office with several young girls
23 Previous locations
24 3 way
25 being together and taking it slow and enjoying each other
26 Something related to what them or outfit to set the mood.
27 watching each other bring themselves to climax
28 Threesome with another woman
29 3somes
30 Where we might like to be the next time.
31 wife has sex with ex
32 strangers who meet on a train
33 no
34 My husband likes to fantasize about a 2nd male lover for me involved in our sexual act.
35 I said “no” to these two questions because we act out our fantasies (dress up, idea for positions, etc)
36 What next place we r going to do it & how.
37 Being together
38 Bondage and spanking
39 not sure if talking about past experiences or what we would like to do together counts.
40 We role play together lots of things.
41 talk about fantasy
42 We like to roll play, and she loves when I pull her hair.
43 -
44 Mostly vouyerism stuff. Getting caught masturbating, etc.
45 sex outside
46 being together in different places
47 none
48 Having my wife make love to another man while I watch
49 being in a department store dressing room
50 Having sex in a public place.
51 sometimes. imagine what we’d like best, etc.
52 n/a
53 Getting caught…
54 See above
55 Particular memories of past, or current, love making
56 I am a Christian practicing abstinence until marriage. I wish there was an option for that.
57 In different roles, we fantisize that we have just met.
58 sex in a remote cabin, with a hot tub, the mountain view, and lots of candles.
59 she likes me to be a big cat, she lets me pretend that she is a white cat.
60 kinky situations
61 N/A. he won’t do dirty talk
62 N/A
63 Our first time together
64 Other people
65 Attacker, aggressor
66 That I’ve been a very naughty girl.
67 We have but not regularly
68 bdsm
69 Honestly, even though it’s anonymous – I really don’t want to invite you that far into my bedroom.
70 none. I would think about them.
71 same as above
72 threesome with another woman
73 N/A
74 I play the strong bad boy she meets at the bar and she is the innocent, sweet good girl.
75 na
76 Football players being naughty with cheerleaders
77 Outdoor sex
78 NA
79 N/A
80 meet as if strangers and proceed to a romantic exotic sex fest
81 Just being together and having mad passionate (but relaxed)sex, since we are rarely together.
82 Erotic engagement with each other without inhibitions.
83 We dress up sometimes. Pirate, cowgirl, etc
84 Sex in the outdoors
85 exhibition, touching and being touched by other different than coupple, watching
86 Dirty taboo talk.
87 Multiple partners at once
88 We sometimes go back to our earliest days, or imagine that one or the other of us is a stranger to the other.
89 Domination
90 A bit of role playing. Wench/M’lord
91 always flying and not touching but WOW!
92 threesomes
93 we imagine making love in various places…pretending we are in the middle of a forest, during a thunderstorm, or somewhere else other than where we are.
94 it varies
95 i am single and don’t have a lover
96 na
97 Secluded place… and so on.
98 Making love in a cove at the beach, by the fire in the den while the kids are farmed out, returning to the days before her hysterectomy when she had sexual desire (we make love about once every two months, a more realistic frequency that your survey won’t allow. Tha question shouldve been composed differently), having sex in public (clothed), mutual masturbation at the movies (jacket in her lap, my hand under the jacket and then moving the jacket), oral sex on the highway. We can’t perform tantric sex. We’ve had great teaching in Song of Solomon. Our sex life stank until God convicted my wife of holding back. Religion has gotten sex wrong, but the Bible is right on. Some gave been taught well, others horribly. Never heard the parallels between Christ and church growing up never heard the beauty of sex growing up. Miss time with my wife now, but we connect physically without sex. Worried about being vulnerable when I travel because of the infrequency.
99 Lesbian or group
100 we’ll talk about if we were ever to get away for a weekend, doesnt happen around here, how we would spend that time with and on each other.