Comments on: Why Do We Have Sex? — A Twitter Survey http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/ Enjoying The Freedom Of Unconditional Sexuality Wed, 14 Apr 2010 00:53:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Derek http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-49 Derek Sun, 22 Nov 2009 21:26:38 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-49 I would say that most of the time sex is to fulfill a physical need, of course to produce more of Gods creation but when done in the right frame of mind is a form of worship. I would say that most of the time sex is to fulfill a physical need, of course to produce more of Gods creation but when done in the right frame of mind is a form of worship.

]]> By: wetfishdesigns http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-48 wetfishdesigns Sun, 22 Nov 2009 10:41:37 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-48 I think sex goes through phases in a marriage/relationship, especially when children are factored into the equation/bedroom. Procreation in itself will make or break your sex life. Scheduling times to have sex is not romantic. Nor is it romantic to rush through passion to avoid curious toddlers asking awkward questions in public. Having gone through years of infertility, being told I'd never have children (now I have two), also drains the passion, the sensuality and the closeness. A lot of women these days seem to be having children later in life and face feritlity issues. 5 years of that was enough for me to not want to have sex for the rest of my life. In this situation, the idea that sex is procreation becomes too much of the focus and the end result, unfortunately, is a woman seeing sex as a means of "bringing on the failure" every month when procreation does not occur. And no one wants to feel like a failure, especially at something they were created to do by God. So after going through 5 years of failed expensive infertility treatments if you had asked me this question I would say "I don't have sex." Now, with two little ones (miracles 1 &2 ) you ask me that question and I say "I don't have sex. I have children." It's a vicious cycle. Hope this helps because I think the procreation aspect is a big issue. I think sex goes through phases in a marriage/relationship, especially when children are factored into the equation/bedroom. Procreation in itself will make or break your sex life. Scheduling times to have sex is not romantic. Nor is it romantic to rush through passion to avoid curious toddlers asking awkward questions in public. Having gone through years of infertility, being told I’d never have children (now I have two), also drains the passion, the sensuality and the closeness. A lot of women these days seem to be having children later in life and face feritlity issues. 5 years of that was enough for me to not want to have sex for the rest of my life. In this situation, the idea that sex is procreation becomes too much of the focus and the end result, unfortunately, is a woman seeing sex as a means of “bringing on the failure” every month when procreation does not occur. And no one wants to feel like a failure, especially at something they were created to do by God. So after going through 5 years of failed expensive infertility treatments if you had asked me this question I would say “I don’t have sex.” Now, with two little ones (miracles 1 &2 ) you ask me that question and I say “I don’t have sex. I have children.” It’s a vicious cycle. Hope this helps because I think the procreation aspect is a big issue.

]]> By: Nelson http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-47 Nelson Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:54:43 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-47 I'm not sure except that God created it. It was His idea. I'm sure glad I get to participate every now and then. It's my favorite thing to do. You have to have a willing partner though. Sometimes I willing more than she is. I’m not sure except that God created it. It was His idea. I’m sure glad I get to participate every now and then. It’s my favorite thing to do. You have to have a willing partner though. Sometimes I willing more than she is.

]]> By: Robert Easter http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-46 Robert Easter Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:08:28 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-46 God made us, male and female, giver and receiver (as both should be), in His image. A "third person" of ecstasy is manifested in the union, the more so as both partners learn to give freely of themselves for the other's pleasure, and receive of each other for the other's sake. This is an extension of the "lower trinity" of the Creation itself, as God and both sexes of Adam give to and enjoy one another freely, so that human sexuality becomes, in this fallen world, a grasping after the unity and ecstasy which was once the birthright of all mankind. Maximos the Confessor wrote that mankind is created not for himself or for a merely rational existence but for ecstasy- to be beside, or outside oneself for Another. If we are ecstatic upwardly for God, then we become fully human, in His likeness. If we reach for a lower, selfish, ecstasy, then we become not less than human, but less than the animals who fulfill their own purpose by instinct, of which we have none. In this view, sex puts us on a narrow fence, whether to fall to the side of godly self-giving, or perverse self-seeking. God made us, male and female, giver and receiver (as both should be), in His image. A “third person” of ecstasy is manifested in the union, the more so as both partners learn to give freely of themselves for the other’s pleasure, and receive of each other for the other’s sake. This is an extension of the “lower trinity” of the Creation itself, as God and both sexes of Adam give to and enjoy one another freely, so that human sexuality becomes, in this fallen world, a grasping after the unity and ecstasy which was once the birthright of all mankind. Maximos the Confessor wrote that mankind is created not for himself or for a merely rational existence but for ecstasy- to be beside, or outside oneself for Another. If we are ecstatic upwardly for God, then we become fully human, in His likeness. If we reach for a lower, selfish, ecstasy, then we become not less than human, but less than the animals who fulfill their own purpose by instinct, of which we have none. In this view, sex puts us on a narrow fence, whether to fall to the side of godly self-giving, or perverse self-seeking.

]]> By: Shula http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-44 Shula Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:26:24 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-44 Thank you Randy for asking this question. It stirred me. Anonymous, your comment broke my heart. Hugs to you darlin. You are not alone. I believe there are thousands of women who feel just like you in America. My passion is helping you and thousands of women like you connect to their sexual selves. It can get better. Really. Thank you Randy for asking this question. It stirred me.

Anonymous, your comment broke my heart. Hugs to you darlin. You are not alone. I believe there are thousands of women who feel just like you in America. My passion is helping you and thousands of women like you connect to their sexual selves. It can get better. Really.

]]> By: anonymous http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-43 anonymous Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:39:20 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-43 Why have sex? only because my husband needs it. Nothing in it for me. If I wasn't married, wouldn't miss it. Why have sex? only because my husband needs it. Nothing in it for me. If I wasn’t married, wouldn’t miss it.

]]> By: Marie http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/2010/01/10/why-do-we-have-sex-a-twitter-survey/#comment-42 Marie Sat, 21 Nov 2009 17:44:03 +0000 http://www.sexliesandreligion.com/?p=138#comment-42 Because it's fun! Because it’s fun!

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