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I hope this book will start conversations. We Americans generally stink at controversial discussions and the subject of sacred sexuality is more than worthy of honest and open debate. Sex is at the heart of almost everything we do as human beings, and if it truly is the essence of existence, then it bears thoughtful and loving consideration among those of us who call ourselves spiritual.

Some people will undoubtedly find portions of this book shocking. Others will think it is tame. It is in no way intended to be a sex manual or a theological treatise. My wish is that it will cause all of us to examine closely our personal longings, our marriages, our relationships, and what we teach our children about sex. Perhaps it’s time to utilize the Bible as our sex manual. And for those aspects where it is silent, we then depend on an open dialogue with those we trust.

My candid conversations with young men I mentor, my own struggles, the shocking results of our online survey, and the inordinate amount of moral dismissals in our churches provided me the incentive to write this book. I have seen wives leave their husbands because of pornography addictions and marriages fall apart due to misplaced affections. Throughout my life, I have seen religion provide judgment instead of grace in almost every situation.

Of course, there are extreme cases of sexual dysfunction that need to be dealt with. Seeing a qualified sex therapist, psychiatrist or licensed marriage counselor is one of the most spiritually mature actions we can take in cases of severe problems.

But I can’t help but think that if we really believed our misplaced sexual longings were an indication of a desperate search for God and the original experiences of the garden, many of us would find redemption instead of condemnation. That’s what I’ve been given. And I’m thankful.

If you get nothing else from this message, know that this book is about redemption. I suppose you could say it is controversially redemptive. I have realized through the years that it takes shaking up the status quo to get anything accomplished. So be it.



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Randy Elrod – Has been married to his childhood sweetheart for over 30 years.  The lessons learned from the highs and lows of their sexual and spiritual union provide a time-tested foundation for the truths found in this book. An Ordained Minister, he has three decades of pastoral and counseling experience – the last fifteen years in two mega-churches with over 16 thousand members.

Sex, Lies & Religion will show that a seductive God desires to know us intimately. As lover He calls for all of our spiritual and physical senses to come alive during this journey called life.

I hope this book will start conversations. We Americans generally stink at controversial discussions and the subject of sacred sexuality is more than worthy of honest and open debate. Sex is at the heart of almost everything we do as human beings, and if it truly is the essence of existence, then it bears thoughtful and loving consideration among those of us who call ourselves spiritual.

Some people will undoubtedly find portions of this book shocking. Others will think it is tame. It is in no way intended to be a sex manual or a theological treatise. My wish is that it will cause all of us to examine closely our personal longings, our marriages, our relationships, and what we teach our children about sex. Perhaps it’s time to utilize the Bible as our sex manual. And for those aspects where it is silent, we then depend on an open dialogue with those we trust.

My candid conversations with young men I mentor, my own struggles, the shocking results of our online survey, and the inordinate amount of moral dismissals in our churches provided me the incentive to write this book. I have seen wives leave their husbands because of pornography addictions and marriages fall apart due to misplaced affections. Throughout my life, I have seen religion provide judgment instead of grace in almost every situation.

Of course, there are extreme cases of sexual dysfunction that need to be dealt with. Seeing a qualified sex therapist, psychiatrist or licensed marriage counselor is one of the most spiritually mature actions we can take in cases of severe problems.

But I can’t help but think that if we really believed our misplaced sexual longings were an indication of a desperate search for God and the original experiences of the garden, many of us would find redemption instead of condemnation. That’s what I’ve been given. And I’m thankful.

If you get nothing else from this message, know that this book is about redemption. I suppose you could say it is controversially redemptive. I have realized through the years that it takes shaking up the status quo to get anything accomplished. So be it.



It is a life of control (following the rules) instead of a life of freedom (a change of heart) and eventually we grow cynical and self-serving. This kind of suspicion essentially cuts us off from the enjoyment of the wonder and beauty of God’s love and creation.

Do we choose to be controlled by lust or freed by Christ?

Many religious people say, “The naked body will always arouse lust in man”. For the person controlled by lust, that may be true. But that raises a huge question “Of which man are we speaking?” Of a man controlled by lust and devoid of beauty and wonder — or a man who has accepted a gift of freedom and redemption that has been both accomplished and applied?

The Hebrew Bible says optimistically that we have been set FREE from the control of sin, and that includes the sin of lust. We have been given the gift of love and purity. When we live out this life by daily accepting the gift of redemption, we are unconditionally set free from prudishness and suspicion and lust will not control our being.

We begin to see the human body as a symbol of God’s mystery. The human body itself becomes in some sense a sacrament, that is, a sign that makes visible the invisible mystery of God. And as singer/songwriter Bruce Cockburn states emphatically, “Don’t tell me there is no mystery, it overflows my cup. This feast of beauty can intoxicate, just like the finest wine”.

Jesus Christ in the Sermon on the Mount said, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall SEE God. Purity of heart lets us look at the human body (ours and our neighbors) and SEE divine beauty–the invisible God made visible. We are miraculously able to SEE an UNSEEABLE God. God wants to reveal himself to us. He wants us to make his “feast of beauty” visible to us so that we can “see” him. And what better way than the ultimate creation? “God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created them, male and female. And God blessed them…and said that is was good”. (Genesis 1:27-28)